Does Halloween affect your sex life?

With October 31 just days away, we’re down to the wire when it comes to what to wear for Halloween this year. Or, maybe you’ve decided to just skip the whole thing and forget about it. If that’s the case, hold up. According to research, dressing up for Halloween creates three major experiences that we all deserve: fantasies, feelings, and fun. Who doesn’t want to be someone else for a change? Whilst still a predominantly American phenomenon we are seeing it’s popularity grow in the UK.

Although Halloween used to be solely associated with a kid’s holiday, it has become something that people of all ages embrace. Research has found that the majority of adults dress up for Halloween, at 64 percent, and here in the States, where Halloween is celebrated the most than in any other country, Americans will spend almost $7 billion on Halloween, including costumes, parties, and all the rest of the fun that comes with it. Adults even spend far more on their costumes than kids, with the little ones spending roughly $950 million and the adults dropping $1.2 billion ― that’s how big of a deal it is for us.

1. Women Who Believe In Ghosts Like To Film Themselves Having Sex
According to OkCupid’s findings, women who believe in ghosts are seven percent more likely to film themselves having sex, than those who do not believe in ghosts. As for why, the research can’t say. It’s just that that happens to be the case.

2. Dressing Up For Halloween Means You’re Probably Into Dressing Up For Sex
It seems that if you’re the type of person who dresses up for Halloween, then you’re 19 percent more open to the idea of dressing up for sex, too, as in role play. Whether you decide to take the route of dressing up as a school girl or a large slice of pizza, those who revel in Halloween are more likely to revel in costumes every other night of the year, too.

3. Fans Of Scary Movies Are More Likely To Be Into Pain During Sex
If you’re into scary movies and you like pain during sex, then you’re not alone. According to the data, it’s those who can’t get enough of The Shining and similar movies who are 15 percent more likely to enjoy pain while getting it on with their partner. Dripping hot wax with some Silence of the Lambs in the background, anybody?

4. Dungeon And Dragon Players Are Practically Vampires
How this particular one has any correlation is beyond me, but as OkCupid found those who play Dungeons and Dragons are 20 percent more likely to love the taste of blood. How does one even know they like the taste of blood if they’re not a vampire by night is my question, but different strokes for different folks, as my dad always says.

5. Video Games Just Lead You Directly To Serial Killers
People who spend eight hours or more a day playing video games, are 25 percent more likely to actually think it’s a-OK to have sex with a serial killer. Huh? Takeaway: Cut those video game playing hours to 7.75 just to be on the safe side. Prolific serial killers like Ted Bundy may be long gone, but that doesn’t mean that there isn’t an active serial killer in the making somewhere, plotting their next kill not too faraway. Spooky stuff.

By AMANDA CHATEL (originally featured on Bustle)

How often should you be having sex?

Most couples and individuals who comes into sex therapist Tammy Nelson’s office want to know the same thing: Is my sex life with my partner normal?

“They want to know if they are having enough sex, the right kind of sex, if their partner wants too much sex,” Nelson, a sexologist and the author of The New Monogamy, said. “Sometimes, they’re worried that they should be doing something totally different in bed.”
In response, Nelson usually tells people the same thing.

“Forget about ‘normal.’ ‘Normal’ is a setting on the washing machine, nothing more. What’s most important is that you learn to have empathy for your partner and accept whatever their needs might be, even if they are different than your own,” she explained.
Below, Nelson and other sex therapists share the advice they give couples concerned about their sex lives (or lack thereof).

Stop worrying about how often other couples are doing it.

Forgot about keeping up with the Jones’ very active sex life: Each couple has a “norm” when it comes to sex and that’s what you should be concerned about, said Dawn Michael, a sexologist and the author of My Husband Won’t Have Sex With Me.
“If a couple had sex three times a week for many years and it’s now down to once a week, the pattern has changed and the frequency has gone down,” she said. “We focus on that in our conversation.”

But Michael also stresses that when it comes to sex, there is no magic number ― and most couples who say they’re getting it on all the time are fibbing.

“A lot of couples will say they have sex three times a week, but from what I see in my private practice, that number does not correlate with the truth.”

What’s normal for you now won’t be what’s normal for you in a few years.

What matters more than finding a nationwide average is determining how sexually satisfied you are at this point in your life, said Chris Rose, sex educator at the website Pleasure Mechanics.

“Your shared sex life is a constant navigation between the tides of your libido, your time and energy, and mutual desire to prioritize sex,” she said. “Frequent conversations about your sex life ― and increasing the amount of affectionate touch you share outside of the bedroom ― may
actually be the most important factors in a long-term sexually satisfying relationship.”

Don’t lose hope if you’re the partner with the higher sex drive.

Someone needs to maintain an interest in your sex life. Otherwise, you might end up in a dead bedroom situation, said Ian Kerner, a sex therapist and New York Times-bestselling author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman.
As he points out, sex isn’t always spontaneous; sometimes, kick starting your sex life requires focusing on arousal over orgasms and just enjoying the moment and the buildup.

“I tell couples that for many people, sexual desire doesn’t emerge at the start of sex, but more toward the middle,” he said. “You need to commit to generating some kind of arousal (through kissing, making out, dancing, reading erotica or watching porn) that may lead to desire. Be willing to generate arousal and see where it goes.”

If you’re the partner with the lower sex drive, determine if there’s a reason.

If you’re the partner who is less interested in sex, there’s no need to feel shame, said Celeste Hirschman, a sex therapist and the co-author of Making Love Real: The Intelligent Couple’s Guide to Lasting Intimacy and Passion. Desire discrepancy in relationships is more common than most people realize.

As Hirschman’s co-author Danielle Harel explains, if you want things to change, you have to be willing to deep dive into why you’re disinterested in sex. It could be that you’re experiencing physical and hormonal fluctuations and intercourse is painful ― or maybe you’re just tired of doing the same ol’ thing in the bedroom.

“Sometimes, the lower sex drive partner might not be getting the kind of sex they want or they might be feeling too much pressure from their partner which makes them feel obligated,” Harel said. “Feeling obligated to have sex is definitely not sexy.”
Remember: Good sex can’t be quantified.

At the end of the night, when you’re laying in bed with your partner, don’t stare at the ceiling and wonder if your sex life is “normal” compared to others. Be proactive: Reach out to your S.O. and talk about what both of you want in the bedroom, Nelson said.

“Try new things,” she said. “Snuggle more, masturbate, negotiate an open relationship if you’re into that, but make sure you always talk about what is important to you,” she said. “Never silently seethe or hold resentment.”
She added: “The secret to a satisfying sex life is not just getting the sex that you want, it’s learning how to give your partner what they want, too.”

Article originally featured on Huffington Post

Sex Toys in Good Housekeeping!

SEX toys are now so popular they feature in July’s Good Housekeeping magazine

Whilst Good Housekeeping is a publication whose usual idea of titillation is a lemon-drizzle cake recipe. Has anything so risqué happened since the WI stripped?

Is a sexual revolution unfolding in the Home Counties?
I suppose we are meant to be scandalised that a 131-year-old lifestyle magazine more used to recommending kitchen tongs has turned its hand to advising readers on DIY orgasms. But I’m not. Is anyone, really? Sex toys are now such a staple of modern life I’d be shocked if any girl I know didn’t own one vibrator at least. In a survey, Good Housekeeping found more than 50 per cent of women aged 31-76 owned a vibrator and 81 per cent were happy to talk openly about it. My guess is those numbers would have been higher if they had been able to drag more readers away from their flower arranging.

Even ITV show This Morning has got in on the act.
Inspired by the magazine’s survey, it tested a selection of sex toys yesterday — leaving hosts Holly Willoughby and Phillip Schofield in fits of giggles. Most women I know are blasé about sex toys. We don’t just talk “openly about them”, they provide an endless source of stories.

One mate of mine told us she had bought her mum a vibrator for her 50th, jamming it into the centre of a bouquet of flowers for shock value.

Only for her mother to causally reveal she already owned one better suited to her needs.

Another friend cackled as she told us she came home to find her cleaner had arranged her sex toy collection on a shelf in her bedroom — in order of descending height. Of course sex toys are no longer shocking. It is two decades since the Sex And The City episode featuring a Rampant Rabbit seemed radical.

It is also big business. The industry is worth £10billion globally and experts say it could rise to £35billion by 2020.

Ann Summers’ chief exec Jacqueline Gold is a CBE, earned for “services to women in business”. (We all know what that means.)

We now live in an era where women are astute at getting what they want between the sheets. We embrace one-night stands and our sexual fluidity as we zip through Tinder and try out girl-only sex parties.

Owning a vibrator seems pretty tame on the scale of sexual expression we could be embracing. In some ways I am disappointed to see sex toys in the Domestic Goddesses’ bible. Is there anything less arousing than the words “Good Housekeeping”?
That a magazine so conventional now features vibrators feels like it could be the end of something exciting.
I worked in a sex shop for women at university. My boyfriend at the time was so embarrassed he refused to meet me from work, let alone visit.

I liked that. It made women getting their kicks feel rebellious. But in Good Housekeeping, sex toys feel like the latest home gadget. Their venture into self-pleasuring features a sombre panel of women commending the Lovehoney Desire vibrator “for its great range of speeds”. Has an orgasm ever sounded so boring, like buying a washing machine? Yet ultimately the arrival of vibrators in Good Housekeeping is important. It signals that sex toys, once reserved for hysterical women or euphemistically whispered about as “marital aids” have crossed into mainstream acceptability. And with them, women’s pursuit of pleasure has become normal. And that’s something worth celebrating.

Here, RUTH HARRISON meets six brave women of varying ages who talk openly about their battery-operated buddies.

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‘I have 20 orgasms a week’ … Tracy says women are now more open about their sexuality
‘I have three of them’

SINGLE mum Tracy Kiss, 28, lives near Aylesbury, Bucks. She says:
My first boyfriend bought me a silver bullet vibrator for Valentine’s Day. At the time I was living at home with my parents and we had a chihuahua called Joey. He used to come into my room, steal things and chew them up – and one day I couldn’t find my vibrator anywhere. A week later I was talking to my mum and spotted it on her bedside table. She thought it was a car part and had no idea what it was. Over the years, I’ve worn out a couple of sex toys. Guys my age are insecure about them – they see it as an insult. Nowadays, women are more in touch with their sexuality. All girls have sex toys but they just don’t talk about it. It’s a shame but I think women don’t want to be judged. My vibrator keeps me smiling all day, every day. People talk about coffee or chocolate giving them a buzz. I get mine from a vibrator. I have three. I use them two or three times a day and have up to 20 orgasms a week. It makes me feel good and it’s not as if it’s a drug.

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‘I have 24 sex toys’ … Violet dreams of finding a silent toy

‘I’m lucky to work from home’

WRITER Violet Fenn, 46, lives with her two children in Shrewsbury and is dating a life model. She says:
Like most people my age, my introduction to sex toys was when Sex And The City was big in the Nineties. I didn’t think too much of the products on offer at the time. They felt cheap and nasty, so I gave up. I was in a relationship for 14 years and our sex life was almost non-existent. With no sex, you’d think I’d be out there looking for sex toys but as it wasn’t a part of my life, I just shut down. Then I started experimenting with toys. We’re in an age where a woman can go to a spa for the day, get her nails done and treat herself – why wouldn’t you treat yourself to a sex toy? I’ve got around 24 and I have ones I prefer. My new favourite is a We Vibe Nova. I use my toys around two or three times a week. The holy grail is finding a silent toy but I’m lucky enough to work from home, so there’s no one here. It’s a bit of me time. My boyfriend isn’t threatened.

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‘I didn’t tell my husband’ … Shirley was worried her hubby would be upset
‘They gave me my mojo back’

RETIRED office worker Shirley Patterson, 61, a divorced mum of two, lives in Willesden, North London. She says:
¿I turned to sex toys to get my libido back after having my first child. I’d lost my mojo with my then husband. In those days, sex toys were taboo and it was my little secret. It had been a year since I’d had an orgasm with my partner and I felt there was something wrong with me. For six years, I didn’t tell my husband about my vibrator. By then, I’d bought several sex toys and it encouraged me to initiate sex later that night. Eventually, I told him. I was thrilled that he wanted to experiment with me. It really improved our sex life. I own four sex toys now I am single. One of them is a tiny grey vibrator with bunny ears.
As you get older, you don’t care as much about what people think. I used to think that having sex at the age of 60 or 70 was ancient, but at this age I still feel about 16. I’m very happy to continue experimenting with toys for years to come.

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‘There are always new toys to try’ … Victoria says she has more than 100 gadgets

‘They add spice to my relationship’

VICTORIA TRAVERS, 30, who runs the sex toy website Knicker Rocker Glory, lives with husband Paul, 41, in Stansted, Essex. She says:
I was a teenager when I bought my first sex toy and I felt awkward. Once I got home I started experimenting and began to find out what felt good for me. I’d use it a couple of times a week with my then boyfriend and it was like a learning curve for us.
From then on, I started popping into Ann Summers, buying lots of different sex toys to try out and then I began looking at forums and ordering products online. Now I have more than 100. There is always a new and better toy I’d like to try out. My favourite at the moment is the Bamboo Mini Vibe. It’s £15 and looks like a designer lipstick. I’ve been married for ten years and we like trying things together. Sex toys are like seasoning to us – the extra spice to our relationship. We don’t have to use them but they enhance our sex life. I play with toys up to four times a week and half of that is with my partner. My sex life is playful, open and awesome, thanks in part to sex toys.

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‘It’s more intense than sex’
Michelle says she always has an orgasm when she uses a sex toy.

MAKE-UP artist Michelle De Feo, 24, is single and lives in Colchester. She says:
At the moment I am off men after a couple of bad experiences, so the closest relationship I have at present is with my “bullet”.
I bought it two years ago when I hosted an Ann Summers party at my home. I’d never used toys before that and frankly they were a revelation. I always have an orgasm when I use them which I can’t honestly say I do with men.
They’re not a substitute for a relationship – men can do things that sex toys can’t. And of course there is the emotional side as well. But sex toys are so well designed they absolutely hit the spot. Sometimes I use them a lot, sometimes it can be as little as once or twice a month. The thing is they are always reliable and they are always there – unlike a man. But the experience is very different. It doesn’t last as long as real sex although the orgasm can be more intense. My mates and I talk about sex toys a lot. But I don’t keep them on display — I keep them hidden in a drawer.

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‘Online shopping changed everything’ … Rachel uses toys with her husband
‘I have a ‘toy’ box’

STAY-AT-HOME mum Rachel Gully, 31, of Ashford, Surrey, is married to Paul, 39, and has four children. She says:
Sex toys have been a big part of my life since I was 18 and I got my first one when I went into a sex shop in Soho with a friend. It was all a bit of a joke back then. I had been curious but there was still that embarrassment factor of going into a shop and buying one. Online shopping has changed that and made them accessible to everyone, thank God. When I first met Paul I did wonder how he would feel when I whipped out a bit of buzzy plastic kit. But he was open to using them with me and they have continued to add a fun dimension to our love life. My toy box helps keep everything fresh and alive. We have loads of different types. Being open about using toys and enjoying them is important for women. I occasionally use something from our toy box without Paul there but mostly they come out when we are together. The couple who play together, stay together.

Article written By KATIE GLASS, featured in The Sun 26/5/16

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Ideal Penis Size?

What is the ideal penis size? Study reveals what women want in the bedroom – and you might be pleasantly surprised

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It’s the question that men have been asking themselves for all eternity – what is the ideal penis size?

Now researchers at the University of New Mexico and the University of California claim to have found the answer to what women want.

In a groundbreaking study, the researchers used 3D models of erect phalluses to characterise women’s penis size preferences for the first time.

75 women took part in the study, ranging in age from 18 to 65. They were California residents, sexually experienced, currently in a sexual relationship, and had had sex recently.

Each was shown 33 penis models – consisting of a cylinder, representing the shaft, topped by a dome, representing the penis head.

These ranged in size from 4.0 inches to 8.5 inches in length and 2.5 inches to 7.0 inches in circumference

The researchers then asked them to choose their favourite for a long-term relationship, and for a one-night stand.

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They found that the average length women preferred for a long-term relationship was 6.3 inches, with a girth of 4.8 inches.

For one night stands, women preferred a slightly longer penis, with a length of 6.4 inches and a girth of 5.0 inches.

“Women preferred a larger penis size (especially a larger circumference) for one-time partners as compared to long-term partners,” the researchers wrote in their report.

“While this preference for a larger phallus is above the average penis size, it is only very slightly above the average.”

Since women’s preferences for both relationship types were slightly larger than the average male, the preferred size for the one-time partner was farther from the average.

“Novelty itself contributes to pleasure, so seeking a more novel-sized penis may be consistent with a goal to pursue pleasure primarily in one-time partners,” the researchers said.

“Women may prefer a smaller penis size in a long-term partner compared to a one-time partner for reasons of both physical comfort and a preference for less masculinity in a longer term partner.”

Article by Sophie Curtis for The Mirror (10-2-16)

Brittany Sturtevant [Allie Haze] Interview

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Captain Jack (Fan Interviewer) Interviews Allie Haze

Allie is one of the top stars in the industry and this interview is 2 years in the making! We finally connected and had a wide ranging talk. Allie has the girl next door looks but she can get as nasty as the best of them and that’s what makes her so appealing! Allie is a 3-time nominee for Performer of the Year. She’s always engaging with her fans so be sure to say ‘hi’ if you get the chance!

Captain Jack: Tell me about Allie Haze.

Allie Haze: I grew up in Redlands, CA. I have a pretty big family. In high school, I played soccer and was a cheerleader. I was also a thespian in theatre. I have 2 dogs which consume most of my life. (laughs)

CJ: How long you’ve been in the industry?

Allie: This June will be my seventh year.

CJ: When did you lose your virginity, is there a good story behind it?

Allie: I was 16. It wasn’t really a major event for me.

CJ: Were you very promiscuous after that?

Allie: No, not at all.

CJ: Were you with girls before porn too?

Allie: Yes. I was a lesbian before I became bisexual which is essentially why I got into the business originally. I wanted to have sex with chicks and then it turned into something else.

CJ: I saw in the adult documentary Aroused that you came from a very religious upbringing. How did you progress from that to a career in porn? Did you have conflicting emotions about it?

Allie: No, it just kind of happened. I’ve always been very well-rounded and determined. If I get something in my head and it’s something I want to do, I’ll do it. I make sure I cover all my bases and make sure whatever effects come from my choice, I’m willing to live with them. If it’s something I want to do, I’ll go ahead and do it. There’s not a major event that happened, I’m more of a go with the flow kind of person. Like I said, I started doing porn originally for girl/girl and got asked to do more. It kind of progressed from there and I’m along for the ride.

CJ: How is your family accepting of your career now? Was it hard for them at first?

Allie: Yes, it was hard on them for the first year but we’re great now. Everything’s wonderful.

CJ: How did you come up with your stage name?

Allie: Originally, someone let me know about camming. I was interested but I never actually started. I chose Allie because I was told to choose a letter at the beginning of the alphabet. And Alley Cats was the name of my soccer team when I was a little kid. It was one of the best teams I was on. Haze is a combination of multiple things. (laughs)

CJ: What was your first scene like? Were you intimidated? Nervous? Turned on?

Allie: My first boy/girl was for Reality Kings and I worked with Ramon Nomar. He’s awesome and knew it was my first boy/girl scene and guided me through it. He helped me out and it was a really fun, relaxing day. My first day on set was awesome and that’s what contributed to me continuing to do it.

CJ: Did you watch porn before you joined the industry?

Allie: No, not at all.

CJ: What’s your favorite position?

Allie: Probably a tie between cowgirl and doggie.

CJ: In the almost 7 years you’ve been in it, do you have any favorite scenes? If someone wanted to know the ultimate Allie scene, what would you recommend?

Allie: My favorite movie that I’ve done is Allie by HardX. That was my first anal release and it came out a couple of years ago. I put my heart and soul into that movie and it took me a long time to be comfortable with myself sexually to do anal. That’s one that’s near and dear to my heart. But best scene? It depends on what you like to watch. (laughs) I do so much different stuff from Kink to couples scenes to parodies. It’s all over the place. Princess Leia was one of my favorite parodies. My favorite couples film is Lost and Found. My favorite feature would be Wanted by Stormy Daniels that came out last year. Everyone seems to love me and Rob Piper in Interracial Anal 2.

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CJ: You mentioned a couples scene, is it hard to go from a hard core gonzo scene to a more gentle type of fucking?

Allie: No not at all. You’re prepared for the day so you know what you’re about to shoot. Your head’s probably in that space when you wake up that day. At least it is for me. I like to prepare for my scenes and get my head in the game. I don’t just show up like it’s another day. I try to put as much heart and soul into a project as I assume the director or writers did. Whether it’s a gonzo thing or a scripted thing, someone spent time thinking and imagining me playing out there dirty little secrets. I try to put 110% into everything.

CJ: You mentioned Allie, one thing I liked about that is that it was your first anal scene but you did four anal scenes in that release! You seem to have a special relationship with Mason. Why did you choose her?

Allie: Back when I got started in the business, her films were at the top of the map when it came to showcases. And they still are. Showcases were a little bit different in 2009 and the business was different. It’s certainly different than it is now. Back then, we took things in steps which is why it was called a showcase. We like to showcase different parts of our body and when we decided to use them and how we decided to use them and how we envisioned using them for the first time in sharing them with the fans. With that in mind, I can’t think of anyone better. When I first got into porn, I watched those different films like Tori Black Is Pretty Filthy and Asa Akira Is Insatiable. That’s what I know as great porno because I never watched porn before that. Those types of movies are different now which is fine, it’s a changing business. But because that was my heart and that’s what I know, me and Mason just clicked. We have a great chemistry together and a great vibe. With that, comes her ability to pull things out of me which I may or may not have ever thought I’d be into or be possible. She’s really fun to work with because you get to bounce ideas and discuss things. If I don’t like something or she doesn’t like something, you work on it together. There are other times when you let the magic happen. A comfortable setting and knowing that you got to be a part in creating something. She really cares what the fans thing. She’s on different blogs, on fan sites and she watches what everybody says. She’s into both the performers and the fans which is great.

CJ: You mentioned Kink before, are you submissive?

Allie: No, I’m a switch. It depends on who I’m working with. I can tell if somebody that I’m working with if I can be more dominant with them. I like to take charge but I don’t mind if somebody takes charge of me as long as they know what they’re doing. (laughs)

CJ: A lot of guys in porn are older. Does it ever bother you to work with older men?

Allie: I’m 28! I’m right up there with them! (laughs) No, actually, I’m really lucky that I’ve been in the business as long as I have because there are a handful or more of stable male performers that have been around my whole career. Age isn’t really a factor to me. Most everybody that I’m sure you’re thinking of, I’ve performed with for years. So I have a different opinion of it because we’re all friends and we see each other all the time.

CJ: How often do you masturbate?

Allie: Um, I don’t know. It depends on my mood or what’s going on or if I’ve been working but average, I would say, about 3 times a week.

CJ: You were with Vivid for a year or so as a contract girl. Most fans hate it when girls go under contract, do you think that helped your career or hurt?

Allie: I don’t know. For myself, I definitely enjoyed it. I got to see if that’s something that I enjoyed doing, being part of one company and being a part of a brand. I think it’s a little hit or miss. I think a lot of it has to do with people not knowing what I’m capable of.

CJ: We’ve talked about your anal. A lot of fans are clamoring for a DP. Are you going to do one?

Allie: Yes. I would love to! I’d love to get more anal out there. I’m off and on ADT but I definitely still follow when people comment on there. It’s very entertaining on some days. (laughs) It’s not up to us when we shoot. It’s hilarious to me when fans get ideas in their head that I’m retired or pregnant or because I’m wearing stockings too much and something’s wrong with my legs. We have control on what we shoot and who we shoot with but we don’t have control on when we shoot. It’s not up to us. For me, to answer your question, yes, I would love to do a DP but I would also like to show people what I can do with what I’m doing already before I throw that out there.

CJ: Then, to take it a step further, what about the circus acts like double vag or double anal or a gang bang?

Allie: Like I said, I’m into the old school way of doing things and that’s what you did. You did movie 1, 2 and 3 and that’s how they came out. The fans are ready for it and know to wait for it. I would like to say ‘yes’ as long as nothing changes crazy in the business. Or if they are different expectations. We’ve got some really amazing performers that are doing outrageous things. And I mean outrageous in the best manner possible because I’ve won Most Outrageous Sex Scene twice already. I mean it in the best way possible! (laughs) As long as they don’t come up with something that’s cooler or better than that, I would assume that it’s definitely on my list before I retire.

CJ: When a guy pops, where do you prefer it?

Allie: Probably my face.

CJ: Do you like swallowing?

Allie: Yeah! It doesn’t bug me.

CJ: You have that innocent look, as I mentioned, but you give some of the nastiest sloppiest blowjobs around. I love the way you worship balls, especially Suck Balls 3.

Allie: I’m glad somebody pays attention! (laughs)

CJ: What’s the kinkiest thing you’ve done off camera?

Allie: Most of the stuff that I do, I do it on camera. That’s because it’s a controlled, safe environment which makes me comfortable and allows me to push my limits a little bit further than I do in my bedroom. The kinkiest stuff I’ve done is on video. That’s one of my favorite things because anyone who has been a watcher of mine from the beginning has shared this journey.

CJ: Some fans commented on your pegging scenes. Do you like doing those type of scenes?

Allie: Yes, I like to work with and do things with different performers and directors as long as that’s what everybody else is comfortable with. I’m not into pegging in a demeaning manner but as a sexual manner. I find it very attractive that another man would allow me to do things with him sexually that may or may not be seen as a little bit more taboo.

CJ: Do you have any fantasies you still would like to live out on camera?

Allie: Yes, I haven’t done a DP so that’s definitely one of them. I probably say before a DP, I would like to go air tight because I find that way sexier than just a plain old DP. I’d rather be overwhelmed. (laughs)

CJ: Off-camera, what are your hobbies and interests?

Allie: I watch a lot of TV. I like hiking. I spend a lot time out with my dogs. I’m a very social person and love spending time with my friends. I like to read too.

CJ: You mentioned TV shows, what are some of your favorites?

Allie: The Flash, Arrow, I watch a lot of comic book related things. How To Get Away With Murder, Once Upon A Time are a couple more.

CJ: What’s your favorite movies?

Allie: Favorite movie of all time is All Dogs Go To Heaven or Fox and Hounds but those are animated so they don’t count. Star Wars came out so I’d put that up there. I’m ready for the next one.

CJ: You’ve done some mainstream projects like Emmanuelle and a SyFy Movie, Age of Ice. Do you have any other mainstream projects coming up?

Allie: I actually just got asked to do another SyFy flick so I hope it comes through. I just had a director contact me to possibly shoot something this year. Hopefully there will be something coming up in the future. I do love to do it!

CJ: What does the future hold for Allie Haze? Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

Allie: I still see myself here. I don’t see myself going anywhere, that’s for sure. I’ll definitely be directing by then, that’s something I want to do. So I’ll be directing and still performing.

CJ: Any new projects coming up that your fans can look forward to?

Allie: I’ve been working on a lot of stuff but I’m not allowed to talk about it! (laughs) I have a couple new scenes coming from Naughty America. I did a couple of really cool photo shoots that will be coming out in magazines. I would say in February, people can start seeing a lot more of me. And I’ll be signing for AEBN at the Adult Entertainment Expo this week and hosting a couple of parties. I’m dancing on Friday night at the Hustler Club with Alexis Monroe, Teagan Presley, Kayden Kross and Kaylani Lei. And the 5 of us are hosting at Chateau on Saturday. I’m also available for fan voting on the AVN site!

CJ: And how can fans get ahold of you?

Allie: On Twitter, I’m @AllieHaze. I have Instagram which I’m not good at which is ItsAllieHaze.

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Originally posted on adultdvdtalk.com

Buying your first sex toy by Cara Sutra

Buying your first sex toy, whether alone or as part of a couple, is a very exciting experience. You’re about to embark on a new adventure in your sexual life and the chance to try something new is deliciously alluring. The chance to ignite your orgasms by a new masturbation method or discover higher levels of satisfaction with a lover comes rarely in our adult lives. Embrace this thrilling opportunity and get ready for more fulfilling sexual pleasure.

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Sex Position – The Nirvana

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The Nirvana

The Nirvana sex position is a classic. When trying the Nirvana sex position, she lies on her back, stretches her legs out and holds onto the bedposts above her head. She keeps her legs together as he enters her with his thighs outside hers.

They move together and the pressure of her thighs intensifies the penetration effect and provides for a natural stimulation of the clitoris.

Kinky Fantasies that are really OK!

Sometimes when I can’t sleep I lie in bed staring at the ceiling and thinking about the flat my boyfriend and I are going to move into. In the fantasy it’s got wooden floors, duck egg blue walls, a huge squashy leather sofa covered in a patchwork quilt, and it’s filled with Diptique candles and Emma Bridgewater mugs. It’s not a fantasy that I’m particularly proud of, but it’s not one that inspires shame either.

Some of my sexual fantasies, however, I’ve tied myself up in knots over, because they’re just so inconsistent with the person who I want to be.

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We know that we’re strong independent women. We’re allowed to have as much or as little sex as we want, and we’re allowed to decide what position, who with and where. At yet somehow, we can still end up feeling guilty about sex, especially our sexual fantasies.

Fantasies don’t conform to the same standards that our political views do. We’re not obliged to make them conform to the behaviours that we’d expect in reality, and that’s why it’s okay to have fantasies about things that in real life would be horrific, or awkward or just plain impossible.

1. The Rape Fantasy

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    “It’s often reported that rape is the most common female sexual fantasy. And I’m someone who does get turned on my thinking about a guy forcing me to have sex. It can be really hard to admit – I feel really bad about it.”

    – Emily, 23, London

    Why it’s okay: The salient thing here is that women aren’t fantasising about the reality of rape. They’re not fantasising about having their lives destroyed, their identity taken from them. Real rape is never acceptable. But what women fantasise about if different. Rape fantasies are about the removal of power, about feeling like a victim, feeling unable to resist. They’re also about being the object of desire. Bodice ripping men with rippling muscles, men who bend you over a four poster and force themselves upon innocents: they’re not real. But they can be sexy. There’s no violation of consent in fantasy.

    2. Being Slapped

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“I know people are into spanking, and that’s not a big deal. But I like it when my boyfriend slaps me across the face, during sex. It makes me feel really submissive and it really turns me on. I like the control aspect, as well as the fact that it’s kind of humiliating.Plus it hurts, but not too much.”

– Lily, 29, London

Why it’s okay: There is a huge difference between your partner slapping you because you’re being annoying, and slapping you in a fully consensual way because you like the way it hurts.As long as you’re both agreed on the boundaries, then there’s no reason not to experiment with it. Just make sure you don’t turn your head as he goes to slap you, because you run the risk of getting a slap to the ear.

3. Age Play

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    “It started with messing around, having sex in my old school uniform. And my boyfriend and I really got off on it. And then we started doing it a bit more. And my school girl alter ego got a bit of a character. I really enjoyed pretending to be naive and innocent, acting shocked when my boyfriend “teacher” touched me or spanked me. I feel weird about it. But it’s not that I’m pretending to be a child, but I’m taking aspects of childishness as part of a . But I still wouldn’t tell my friends in case they judged me.”

    -Kate, 27, Edinburgh.

    Why it’s okay: Because you’re not really a child. And knee socks look hot on adult women. It’s okay to use aspects of feeling innocent to make your sex life feel new all over again. Playing at being younger than you are is not the same as wanting to have sex with someone who is much younger.

    4. The Virgin Fantasy

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“There’s something about the idea of being a virgin and losing it to a guy I really, really fancy that really turns me on. I think it’s because the reality of losing your virginity is often awkward, embarrassing and not particularly sexy. The idea of taking those uncomfortable teenage years and turning them into something which is empowering excites me. I often fantasise about losing my virginity to the guy I’m currently dating, and I imagine it happening somewhere quiet and serene, like an Orchard, or on a summer’s day at a picnic, rather than in my parents’ house age 17, in the bathroom, before they get home from work”

– Sarah, 27, London

Why it’s OK: Sometimes re-writing history is the easiest way to come to terms with something, and the virgin fantasy is invariably linked in changing our attitude to sex as you grow up. Sex when you are young is confusing and often unsatisfying; the idea of revisiting a sub-par sexual experience as a young adult is definitely sexy, and should be celebrated. Don’t be afraid to tell your partner of these fantasies; the best way to improve your sex life is always through communication – and, hey, he might like it too. Cue the sexy school girl outfit.

5. The Begging Fantasy

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    “This sounds strange, but I love the idea of having to beg for sex. So often it’s the guy that is desperate for sex – but imagining what it would be like to be turned on so much that I’m literally gagging for a guy inside me. In this fantasy the guy goes down on me and won’t let me come – it isn’t til I’m literally on the edge and begging for sex that he goes inside me – slowly and steadily, and increases until I’m on the brink over and over. When I finally come there’s the ultimate release – both of being allowed penetration, and how close I’ve come again and again. It’s really hot”

    – Laura, 24, Birmingham

    Why it’s OK: Our relationship to sex is often linked in stress; sometimes we want sex more when we’re stressed, and often we don’t want it at all. One of the best ways to release tension through sex is by letting someone else take control – and allowing a guy to dominate doesn’t make you easy, less of a feminist or a push over. Letting someone control you, sometimes, is its own form of rebellion – so if you want to be control, we’re not judging you. If you want to control of your man, that’s totally cool too.

    Originally posted by AFT Magazine

Sexmas Parties: 39% of workers have sex at the annual event

The festive season may be a time for good will and sharing – but it’s also apparently the perfect excuse to hook-up with the cute person from accounts, according to a survey which has revealed that 39 per cent of people have had sex at their work Christmas party.

Even more people admitted that the annual knees-up offered the chance to kiss a co-worker, with over locking lips at the event.

A survey of 2,000 UK adults by Ann Summers revealed that IT and HR are the professions most likely to snog or have sex with a colleague or get incredibly drunk at the Christmas party, at 63 per cent and 56 per cent respectively.

This was compared with 27 per cent of those in education and 29 per cent in health.

The survey also pinpointed the locations where employees were most likely to hook up – with a quarter opting for the romantic setting which is the car-park and over a fifth the board room.

A further 18 per cent of people were filled with lust in the storage cupboard.

Apparently not concerned with having flashbacks of regret replaying in their minds all year, a brave 15 per cent had sex on their own desk.

Meanwhile, one in 10 had sex in the office canteen, while 8 per cent let go on the green felt of the office pool table.

And with 65 per cent of senior managers claiming to have sex compared with 28 per cent of directors and 26 per cent of junior staff members, it seems that a good example isn’t being set from the top.

The professions most likely snog, have sex or get incredibly drunk at the Christmas party

1. IT (76%)

2. Legal (74%)

3. HR (72%)

4. Transport and logistics (72%)

5. Finance (71%)

6. Media and marketing (68%)

7. Sales (67%)

8. Business administration (57%)

9. Health (52%)

10. Education (45%)

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Article originally published in the Independent 1/12/15